Joyce Brothers
Family psychologist, author, and advice columnist; born Joyce Diane Bauer.
An individual's self-concept is the core of his personality. It affects every aspect of human behavior: the ability to learn, the capacity to grow and change. A strong, positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success in life.
Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery.
If your energy is as boundless as your ambition, total commitment may be a way of life you should seriously consider.
Before your dreams can come true, you have to have those dreams.
Marriage is not just spiritual communion and passionate embraces; marriage is also three meals a day, sharing the workload and remembering to carry out the trash.
No matter how much pressure you feel at work, if you could find ways to relax for at least five minutes every hour, you'd be more productive.
If Shakespeare had to go on an author tour to promote Romeo and Juliet, he never would have written Macbeth.
The best proof of love is trust.
In each of us are places where we have never gone. Only by pressing the limits do you ever find them.
Being taken for granted can be a compliment. It means that you've become a comfortable, trusted element in another person's life.
"We treat each other well" In strong families, positive strokes outnumber negative broadsides by a wide margin. Members regularly express appreciation: "Thanks for fixing the drainpipe." "you look so nice in that dress." "The dinner was great" Criticism is offered gently. After all, strong families figure, if we can be kind to strangers, why not to one another.
Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the cruelest words.
I don’t give advice. I can’t tell anybody what to do. Instead I say this is what we know about this problem at this time. And here are the consequences of these actions.
Credit buying is much like being drunk. The buzz happens immediately and gives you a lift... The hangover comes the day after.
While parents are naturally in a leadership role, strong families strive to share decision-making. They resolve differences by respecting other viewpoints and accepting compromise solutions. One family decided to spend money on a son's music lessons rather than replace worn carpeting. The compromise was to pitch in and clean the carpet. In another family, everyone but the youngest daughter loved to ski. They rented a vacation condo with plenty of activities for the daughter, and the skiers accepted an hour's drive to the slopes.
The person interested in success has to learn to view failure as a healthy, inevitable part of the process of getting to the top.
We control fifty percent of a relationship. We influence one hundred percent of it.
"Our family comes first" Strong families support each other's dreams; they sacrifice to show support. A friend turned down a company trip to the Bahamas so he could attend his son's championship soccer game. "the beach will always be there," he said, "but my son won't always be 14 and team captain." this "family first" attitude begins with a bond of loyalty between marital partners. But single-parent families (28% of all families with children, according to the latest census) can be just as successful in raising strong children if they develop a "family first" attitude.
Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.
Accept that all of us can be hurt, that all of us can — and surely will at times — fail. Other vulnerabilities, like being embarrassed or risking love, can be terrifying, too. I think we should follow a simple rule: if we can take the worst, take the risk.